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“Khutbahs for dummies”

Here is a re-run of one of my most popular pieces, all the way from 2003: Jahandost reminded me of it by referring to it as a classic. I used to write for  for ProgressiveMuslimsWhoValueTradition MWU! and PMU were the latest hopes of the day. Neither lived up to our hopes – few things do – but writing on MWU! helped start off my writing by providing me with a sometimes appreciative, sometimes critical audience.

I wrote this piece after attending a jumah khutbah delivered by a popular DC area imam. So if you think of certain points in the piece as exaggerated, don’t hurry to assume: at least some of the most ridiculous points are based on fact.

Today, as we pray for Pakistanis getting beaten and detained by police at Musharraf’s orders, I thought this might help lift some spirits just a bit – I hear of a lot of Pakistanis being depressed today.

Khutbahs for Dummies


(Note: The guidelines below, though most appropriate for brother Pimply mentioned below, are applicable to all brothers – including those with clear skin and full beards – imams, community leaders, sheikhs and MSA speakers. At our last GLBTMA (Great Locally-Big-Time-Muslim Association) conference we agreed on these guidelines in order to preserve the jum‘a proceedings from innovations introduced by excitable “progressive” Muslims who create mischief in the earth.)

Dear Big Time Local Imam,
I am in a mosque where most of the guys are either dumb, or just really bad Muslims. The ones who are religious and knowledgeable are studying medicine/engineering/law, and they are too busy getting ready to make big money. Unfortunately there are some knowledgeable religious sisters who make us look even worse in comparison. The guys in charge of Khutbahs, who wear dark glasses and hide in corners watching everyone else, have asked me to deliver the Khutbah next Friday. They say that they must take “preemptive action” against the “imminent danger” that the sisters will be asked to write or horror! even deliver Khutbas. I’m just a freshman and I don’t know much about this religion-stuff. Heck, I started going to jum‘a because one of the girls told me to. What should I do?
Brother Pimply Freshman

Dear Brother Pimply,
First of all, don’t feel intimidated by those “religious” sisters. You have something extremely important that they don’t. You know. And on top of that, you never get a period.
As for them, they just have to make up for being girls. Be a man: look down on them. And the Khutba-mafia are pious brothers: you should do what they say to preserve order in the community.

Here are eleven guidelines for your Khutba:

1. If you feel intimidated about being too young, too dumb and too green, just look straight at the jum‘a attendees: these are people who, in order to be there at jum’a, have skipped their classes, delayed lunch, absented themselves from the social scene and made sundry sacrifices.

Look straight at their faces, and tell them they are worthless, sinful people who will never amount to anything. Tell them you *know* they’re not doing ANY good these days. If they’re doing any good, tell them it’s not enough by far. Make snide comments about how they love the world too much and don’t care about God, the hereafter and piety. Drop remarks about how they are excessively concerned about their classes, their term papers and their professors, and that PROVES they don’t care about salat, Ramadan, and Allah (SWT).

The shock of this mental abuse that you are performing on them will daze and confuse them. They will feel like they are back in the high school playground and their instincts of fear will kick in. This is excellent because it will inspire them with the fear of Hellfire.

2. By the way, say Subhanuhu wa ta’alaa every time you say Allah; that’s His last name, and you have to preserve a degree of formality in speaking of Him. It makes you look smart. Also, that way people don’t get too fresh with Him in supplications, and keep it reverential and slightly distant. Then they don’t bring up absolutely every piece of frivolous rubbish in their supplications: maybe then they’ll focus on political and military defeats worldwide, as we Muslims should.

3. It is recommended to drop nasty comments about how you know they must be spacing out right this very moment because they were up late partying (they probably are spacing out because of your Khutba, but be quick to blame it on THEM so they feel guilty instead of mad at you). At some point accuse people of not focusing on the Khutba, so they will still feel doubly guilty. Make sure to draw sarcastic attention to the brother/sister who was fasting and so tired that s/he fell asleep during the khutbah. Don’t acknowledge the ones among them who were up praying last night, or reading Qur’an a little while ago, or struggling against their nafs, or whatever else these Sufi-influenced people do. They don’t count.

4. At various points in the Khutba, in the middle of a sentence, raise your voice suddenly and yell at the audience. When they start and jump in shock, you’ll get a big kick out of their reaction. You will feel immensely better about yourself and your Khutba. This will cause you to yell more frequently, which is good. This is the way our forefathers in our native lands deliver Khutbas, and you must follow that example. It wakes people up occasionally and makes them upset, and sadness is recommended.

5. Remember to drop random phrases in Arabic at frequent intervals. The fact that you are dumb doesn’t help, but don’t worry about it too much. When you use big Arabic words, look away from the desis and the white and black folks who stare at you blankly wondering what you just said. Your implied contempt will destroy their concentration, and they won’t notice how bad the Khutba was, so you get away scot-free.

When you drop Arabic phrases, the knowledgeable attendees who know you’re pronouncing the Arabic incorrectly will be too pious to correct you or laugh at you. After jum‘a, they will quietly fade away, and say “Brother Pimply mashaallah he is an excellent brother,” and that will mean nothing whatsoever, but that’s ok, because it doesn’t matter if they say nice things even if it’s a lie. They know that the Khutbah is their opportunity for a masochistic episode, … and where else are pious brothers going to get THAT?

6. In any case, boy, it’s a Khutba: they can’t TALK! They’re stuck in that room, they HAVE to be silent, because the hadith tells them to be. It’s perfect. You can yell. You can abuse them, bully them, be rude to them, and insult them. It’s good for them because it ruins their self-esteem. That’s your job. Work it.

7. In the course of the Khutba, make unreasonable and unrealistic religious demands on your attendees. Say something about how it’s haram for the guys to look at their female professors, the girls in their class or in their study group, or the store clerk. Tell them that when they look at these women, they will then start to talk to them, then they will want to go to dinner with them, and then they will surely commit the big Z.

If you tell them this, you will confuse them effectively, and they will feel like they cannot be religious and live in this world. This is not bad. If they feel disempowered and helpless before religion, this enhances their humility. They will also feel profoundly guilty. This will establish a common link between them and their Catholic friends, and will contribute to interfaith dialogue.

Our Biggest Time Imams use this strategy all the time, and it gets the simple-minded and the pious-minded to become their disciples. Which is always good for the Deen.

8. If there are sisters in the musalla (may God protect us from such a situation), make sure to never acknowledge them during the Khutbah. Always address the audience as “brothers.”

There is only one way that you are permitted to acknowledge their presence. Drop remarks about their lack of hijab. Drop some remark about how it is better for sisters to pray in the inner room of their house. Even better, drop some sleazy remarks about women’s clothing. Say how “these people” claim that wearing hijab is not obligatory, and they only have to cover their bosoms, and start shouting about how then the neckline starts plunging slowly and even the bosom shows; or that the tops become shorter and shorter, and their navels show, etc etc. The women will become full of embarrassment and shock as they hear a strange man drawing attention to their bodies in front of a bunch of Muslim men. They will start pulling their sleeves down over their wrists, or their skirts over their ankles, and they will feel lowly and shameful. As for the Muslim men, they will become slightly flustered at the mention of the girls’ bosoms and navels, and will start thinking seriously about marriage. This is good because marriage is a recommended sunnah.

9. Don’t look at the sisters because it is haram to look at them especially during jum‘a. Try to be as mean to them as possible. This is important. During jum‘a it is essential for the khateeb to be mean to sisters. This will encourage on-looking brothers to be mean to the sisters because it’s recommended to be mean to women, especially Muslim women. Kafir women, you have to make da’wah to them, so you have to be nice, but Muslim women are already Muslim.

Everyone knows that brothers behave differently toward the sisters when other brothers are watching them. Therefore they will refrain from trying to make the Muslim women’s acquaintance, at least in the mosque parking lot. This is very important because our wives pass through the parking lots, and we don’t wish them to witness such goings-on. They might get ideas.

10. Make no reference to the brothers speaking to non-Muslim women. This is not as bad as pious brothers speaking to pious sisters. The combination of piety is deadly. It leads to moderation in gender relations, which we all know is a great innovation. We must keep the brothers and sisters oscillating between the ideal (not looking at or talking to any woman at all, unless the woman happens to be really hot) and the real (private conversations with Stacey, Melissa and Jennifer). This will preserve the true Islaam in their minds, and the true nature of men (boys will be boys, eh!) in their lives. This is a mystery, so try not to think too much about it or you will stray from the right paath.

Some people think it is acceptable for sisters to be present during religious gatherings, since we are all being so religious there. This is rubbish. Some brothers get really turned on during religious gatherings. The combination of salat, a masjid and a woman gets them worked up. Not that I would know anything about it, but I’ve heard of such things. And we have to be cautious about the really kinky stuff in our religious gatherings. Also since jum‘a is really only for men, we must work towards getting the women to abandon jum‘a.

Provide a strong role model to the brothers by being crabby to the women. Only irritable behavior will protect their chastity from those women who are just out to get the men. People may talk about Maryam, Asiyah and Musa’s mother in the Qur’an, but you should focus your attention on the seductress in Surah Yusuf under all circumstances. It is a truly fascinating story for several personal reasons.

I tell you, Pimply, many a time has a sister approached me, on the pretext of asking a religious opinion about zabiha or something, when her real intention is to tempt me with her beauty. After taking the first glance at the reckless brown locks peeping from her scarf, at her doe eyes and at all the rest, I just know she’s taken extra care to prettify herself for me. So after that first glance, I take another first glance, just to make sure I do not err, and after the final first glance, I give her an earful. Pretty soon she stops dabbling in religious stuff, and jum‘a gathering is purified.

11. If you possibly can, Pimply, put the sisters in a separate room. “Forget” the microphone so they can’t hear anything. They will get the hint and stop coming our way to lead us astray. Meanwhile, we won’t be blamed because we never told them not to come, right? In any case, it is not seemly for women to complain about such trivial matters as the sound system: if they do complain, we can talk among the brothers about how so-and-so is not good marriage material because she is not sweet and docile. That way, we can weed out the bad snarky genes from our community.

If you follow the above instructions, Pimply, you will develop a career out of jum‘a Khutbas. Pretty soon, you will find yourself invited as a guest speaker to community events, and people will start calling you Imam Pimply.


18 thoughts on ““Khutbahs for dummies””

  1. Oh Shabana, this was the first piece of yours that I read (I had heard about you from Hijabman’s blog) and I was so happy when I found out that you were blogging:-)

  2. Hehehehe,I like the part, “in the middle of a sentence, raise your voice suddenly and yell at the audience. When they start and jump in shock, you’ll get a big kick out of their reaction.”, muahahahaha,it reminds me of some time a while back I started dozing off and this is what exactly happened. 😀

  3. Assalaamu alaikum,
    I know this is a joke based on real life experiences, maybe i just had a sheltered (Islamic) life, but i have never ever heard anything like this (i have lived in 3 continents and I am a 4th generation Muslim), it is a shame if this really does go on.

  4. salam alaikoum
    your trip down memory lane inspired me to rant on something i have been seething over for months.

    I remember when this first came out. I also love the “paath.”

  5. Salaam Alaikum,

    Me three @ “paath”.

    The part about the room with the speaker is funny because it’s true, in fact it’s all true, which makes it as sad as it is funny.

    Especially since after last Eid (cattle market) when I vowed never again to sit in a room and listen to events through a speaker.

  6. This alternately made me laugh outloud and get really angry at the idiots who really do that. It reminds me of the masjid near my house. AND some of the khutbahs I have gone to in Egypt. Allah help us!!!!!

  7. Nothing is more depressing than a Khutbah where you feel like you have come to the Masjid and lost more knowledge.

    YOU listen and feel your iman decreasing instead of increasing.

    Teaching people to deliver a Khutbah or deliver a public address is something that Muslims need to learn.

    Check out this website dealing with muslim communication styles.

  8. Thank you… I never realised the khutba was an egotistic, misogynistic, grandiose and “abusive” platform for SELF fulfilment.

    Thank Allah those bleeding sisters won’t get a chance to show ’em how it’s done…

  9. Hi

    I was actually looking at putting a khutbah together, however after reading this I don’t think I’m gonna. I hope a never experience a khutbah the way you’ve experienced, and I sincerely do hope you experience a khutbah where you can walk a way with benefit and a closeness to the creator, thank you for your time and effort was a eye opener 🙂

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