20 years ago: my first job, at the International Islamic University

This September, I’m irresistibly drawn to remembering that 20 years ago, I got my first real full-time job at the International Islamic University.

Dr Farhat Hashmi (the very same) was then coordinator of the قسم البنات (Women’s Section), and was keen to hire me, one of the few niqabi, religious English MAs she’d met so far (things have changed in Pakistan, now). I interviewed with the crusty, blunt Brigadier who was then Head of the English Department, and he took me on as a part-time hire until a position opened up. (I made a lot more money as a part-time hire).

It was the first time in my life that I had even imagined living away from home. The night before I left Lahore and my parents’ home (MY home), my heart was gripped in an ice-cold fist, as I realized I was moving away from home, family, and parents, into the unknown. None of my siblings had ever moved away for work, and I was a single young woman. But my parents, and especially my father, though conservative religiously and culturally, believed in women’s independence. “You should have something in your hands,” they said. “Men are bastards,” said my father with his characteristic bluntness. “You can’t trust them.”

I still remember that that night, I got a static-filled phone call that asked for me, mentioned the job I’d applied for at Lahore College for Women, and then became inaudible (phone lines in Pakistan …). It left me with a sense of indecision: should I stay in Lahore? Should I wait for work at a college in Lahore? Should I drop the IIU now? But it was an opportunity, and who knew what would happen if I let it go? And then, I was a lonely religious young woman in a social circle that was not heavily religious. Being at the Islamic University could mean I would find my home. Or would it?

I begged my mother to get an intercom system installed, so that she would be safe, in the absence of her protective daughter. (It stopped working, of course.) I felt guilty for leaving her. It was incredibly hard. The car speeding towards cold, green Islamabad was driving me into a cold embrace. We ate in a desolate restaurant in Blue Area, and by then, everyone realized I was depressed and fighting tears.

By the time I arrived at the Women’s Hostel, where the students lived, I had been vomiting. The ‘warden’ (yes) was coolly welcoming, but was clearly working to ensure boundaries. I was to share a room with her and use a bathroom that was shared by a bunch of students. I hadn’t shared a bedroom or a bathroom in years. The social class difference was traumatic.

It was destined to become a home, a community, where I found sisterhood and Divine Love. I still yearn to return, but it isn’t what it used to be, and I am not that green (in more ways than one), 22-year old niqabi, wiping vomit from my lips, clinging to my mother and nervously peering up at the women in the hostel, wondering how to put my lipstick and eye make-up in the noisy grey steel freestanding locker. It was a new world.

8 thoughts on “20 years ago: my first job, at the International Islamic University”

  1. I remember that 22yr old niqabi Shabana.I could not help crying……..hope u r still as lively and exuberant as u were 20 yrs back. Stay blessed!

  2. I remember the 23 yr old niqabi teacher who then briefly shared her room with me (a 22 yr old MA student), and much more besides. But then she took off from there, out of that world, and out of that cultural paradigm – a truly stunning leap!

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