academic, children

I will survive (homeschooling)

I confess that I am a closeted lover of home-schooling. Though my own circumstances seem to make it an impossible option for me, I would dearly love to home-school my 2-year old. So far she has only tasted daycares, and that alone has caused me to revolt against the idea of institutionalized education for children – in general. This song, an edited version of “I will survive” struck a chord.

16 thoughts on “I will survive (homeschooling)”

  1. Homeschooling is as good as the home school teacher. A significant amount of parents don’t even know how to be a parent after school let alone be the school.

    Ever want to go back to the really good old days, when students used to go live with their teachers and travel treacherous terrains to study from some scholar? In those days education was not for the faint hearted.

  2. I was a terrible homeschooler for the first year (hence the song). Seven years later, I can say without reservation that it was the best decision we made.

    That said, I’m not one of those advocates who thinks everyone can or should homeschool. It’s not for everyone, but I’m glad it’s an option.

    Thanks for visiting my blog!

  3. I don’t have children yet but there is a piece of me that thinks -when it is done properly-that it is wonderful.

    I was beyond shocked when I found out that one of my academic advisors was homeschooling his three children. Well-actually his wife- a photographer is homeschooling them. This of course sent me into a women in the academy rant.

    I have never met a woman assistant professor with three children. I remember the icy feeling I felt when a professor that I respect very much-a feminist-said that it was just “too much” for another assistant professor to try to have a second baby. Backwards mentality.

  4. baitunjamil, I don’t know what the professor meant, but I know that the pressures of the tenure track make it very, very challenging to even raise one, and do it well. Workplaces are still largely fashioned for men – who have mommy at home taking care of homework, diapers, soccer, and bedtime. Mommy worrying about the latter while at work is not a popular scenario …

  5. Just yesterday I read this info in Yes! magazine :

    Percentage of women recommended for hire based on resumés created by researchers for a recent study: 84

    Percentage of women recommended for hire when otherwise identical resumés indicated they were mothers: 46.8

    Percentage of men recommended for hire based on resumés created for the study: 61.7

    Percentage of men recommended for hire when otherwise identical resumés indicated they were fathers: 73.4 [3]

  6. I homeschooled two of my three children for short periods. But once they have done school school, I discovered they had to be “de-schooled”: Children quickly learn to depend on the teacher to learn, whereas homeschooling allows the child to maintain control of her/his learning – without this ludicrous illusion that people learn in straight lines – I suppose that’s one reason why homeschoolers in the UK actually do so well in public examinations: intrinsic motivation is more powerful than institutional expectation.

    I was still getting my own education while my kids were growing up. So I didn’t have the confidence to go for homeschooling except out of necessity (e.g. the eldest was getting bullied and the Head thought that was not a big deal). Then the youngest having autism made it impossible. Looking on now at my 18 yo, whose aptitude and talent is undermined by her singular lack passion for learning, I now see the long-term damage mainstream education can do.

    Plus the politics. Education in the UK has been so politicised, the legalised myth of education being rounded is now transparent. It’s really about producing economic units.

  7. Home schooling vs. public schooling is a false dichotomy…you can easily do both—especially for elementary school age children.

    That is what I did for my children. Home schooling as an adjunct to formal education allowed my eldest son to complete one year of calculus by the 9th grade (because I supplemented his school’s math education).

    He graduated from high school having completed all of the math requirements for most university engineering B.Sc. programs. He did that by being dual enrolled high school-university student

  8. I’m so tempted too but i just don’t think i have it in me. Here the schools are really good but if we lived somewhere else i might rethink it.

  9. Great parody. I must say I’m a fan of homeschooling too. Mr. Nomad and I agree that that’s our goal, and with my kids being twins they wouldn’t get so lonely because they’d be each other’s classmate. I don’t care what material sacrifices I have to make to accomplish that. Sleep on the floor, wear the same five pairs of shoes until they fall apart, instead of the fifty pairs I had before I had my babies, drive an old beat up car, wear the same three outfits until they’re thread-bare…Nothing can replace the time and devotion I want to dedicate to the rearing of my children. I don’t want to raise them to think that the most important thing is material possessions. Love and family togetherness are the most important things.

  10. I read this a long time ago but didn’t have a chance to comment until now. But i Love it! It had me cracking up for days 🙂 The first year of homeschooling is hard but thereafter it just gets easier and easier. InshaAllah in the future you’ll get an opportunity to try it out 🙂 Don’t worry, there’s lots of nice curriculums that give you everything and tell you what to say and correct the exams for you etc. Ramadan Mubarak btw.

  11. Assalam-alaikam,
    I too love the idea of home-schooling but work full-time (plus lack the confidence and maybe the patience). I feel very inspired by what the home-schooling parents do and try to do some of it with my kids.

  12. In my opinion, traditional schooling is essential to the growth of a child. A part of a child’s education is not only to learn academics, but they also need to learn how to interact with others. Majority of all home schooled children seem to have very few friends which can be damaging to the child. They may have friends that go to institutionalized facilities, however, may feel left out because they do not attend school or are used to the daily events that their friend is surrounded by. It is important for the child to practice their interaction with others at this young age so that they may develop their social skills. These social skills lead into growing to be adults. Although parents believe it safer to have their child or children homeschooled because the child is specifically under their care, I feel that they end up lacking the tools needed to get by later in life. My opinions derive from my own experience. In my family, my two brothers and I were not home schooled. We all went to a public school from kindergarten all the way through senior high school when we graduated. In these public schools, not only did we get a high class education, but we had the opportunity to be a part of sports teams, school clubs, as well as make good friends, developing a healthy social life. In my case, joining sports, which is not offered in home schooling, helped me pay for college on a full scholarship.

  13. Dear Koonj, I remember reading your blog when you were writing about your experiences with pregnancy and childbirth. I wanted to recommend those posts to my sister — who is pregnant and can use the kind of sane, clear-headed, unsentimental thoughts and experiences that you shared. Can’t seem to find them online anywhere though. Can you help?

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